Do you know how to establish deep meaningful relationships? If you’re texting to a person at the dinner table who isn’t there. Would you say it’s a problem? This is very similar to alcoholism, as explained by Simon Sinek, in the Millennials question on YouTube.
I have a couple of children and I raised them differently than what is referred to as the “bad hand” the Millennials were dealt. It is said that “millennials were told that they could have anything they want just because they wanted it, that they are special and that they should get an award even when they come in the last place.” ~ Simon Sinek
I do recall seeing some of this transpire while I was growing up and I also remember disagreeing with most of it. The one thing I do believe is that we are special. Each and every one of us. I have always believed in the value of working toward and earning the reward. As for having anything they want. Well, yes you can if you are willing to put the time, energy and resources into it?
I have struggled with establishing and maintaining deep meaningful relationships. My story is a little different from using technology as a means of numbing. Instead, I hid from the world and used mary jane as my substance to numb my pain from inadequacy and low self-image.
Simon says that many alcoholics are first introduced to the use of alcohol as a coping mechanism during their adolescence. I agree that this is likely true and isn’t limited to alcohol. We can include other disempowering habits such as any form of drug, prescription or non-prescription, food, which can be junk food or take-out, pick your poison, or perhaps it's gambling and any other vice used to numb us from the pains of life.
Life hands us pain in some form. No one is immune to it. We experience physical pain when you fall down and scrape your knee, and we feel emotional pain when for example when our first boyfriend breaks up with us. I believe the one thing many of us are lacking is strategies and coping mechanisms to manage our hurts, trials and struggles in life. And to make matters worse, many of us have no idea how to ask for help and reach out to other people.
I know I didn’t for a very long time. I heard something recently that indicated that humans are not the smartest species on the planet, we are not the strongest species on the planet. The characteristic that resulted in human evolution is our ability to come together as a community. We have strength in numbers per se.
I ask the question, what would the world look like if we continue to isolate ourselves from one another and lack the skills of establishing and maintaining deep meaningful relationships? And what can we do to change this?
I believe that some of us may have been dealt a shitty hand. And that sucks. I also believe that when we are adults, we have the ability to choose the path we want to live. We can learn from the shitty hand, heal from it and live our purpose, which takes time, energy and resources. Or we can leave things the way they are and hope that someone else may fix the problem. I don’t know about you, but I rather take charge of my own life and how I want to live it, rather than wait for better times.
There are many great resources out there to help us achieve what we want too! All we need to do is ask. I get it, sometimes we don’t know the questions to ask. Fair enough. The one thing we can do for ourselves is to be open to the opportunity for the resources to be shown to us. How do we do that? Just think to yourself or say to yourself, that you are open to the possibilities!
The idea that Millennials were dealt a “bad hand” was the concept shared by Simon Sinek in the YouTube video. Everyone has issues, struggles, and challenges they face. I believe these challenges can make us stronger. In my experience, it has made me stronger. My struggles have made me the person I am today.
Believe in yourself. Believe in the Rockstar that you are. If you are struggling, be open to the possibilities. Believe that life is for you. And know that help is on its way!
I’m Coach Jackie Thomas.
I also happen to be a Nurse in the Healthcare field. I’ve been a PSW as well.
I’m a wife and mom who loves her family. But, sometimes, after a “bad day” or dealing with some intense trauma, I was triggered and brought it home to my kids and spouse. It wasn’t working.
At the height of my burnout, I went looking for solutions. Anything to make me feel better again. To love my career again. To reignite my passion again.
I found evolved NLP. The combination of science meets spiritual resonated with me. The work is founded in practices of forgiveness and healing on a cellular level for lasting true change.
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