I smoked cigarettes for over 20 years. I never thought the day would come when I would be able to quit. I was writing in my journal and praying to God at the time to help me quit smoking. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was super anxious with very few coping mechanisms to manage my emotions and especially any stress. Cigarettes, coffee and in my twenties, marijuana was my means of coping.
With two children and a strong desire to do better for them, I knew I had to quit smoking pot. And once I got through my nursing school, I did just that. Sayonara Mary Jane. But I still had cigarettes and coffee. A lot of coffee. My coffee drinking was so bad, I would stop at Tim Hortons every time I left the house. My smoking habit was equal to the coffee drinking and any smoker knows, coffee and cigarettes go hand in hand. Just like many other substances, a drink and a smoke, smoke after dinner and so on.
What was crazy to me, was that, my husband also smoked cigarettes. He smoked more than I did, yet seemed to be healthier. He didn’t believe that smoking was such a terrible thing. Both his grandparents smoked and lived full long lives. He really didn't see the need to quit smoking. He would often say to me that he wasn’t a quitter. Which of course would drive me up the wall. I think for me, it had to do with my beliefs from my nursing education and of course, we all know that cigarettes are bad for our health. Or at least that is what many of us believe.
I just seemed to experience more symptoms than my husband, who smoked more than I did…. Weird eh! I attended a weekend workshop called “Awaken Your True Self” hosted by a highschool friend of mine and learned some really cool Mind-Body stuff that I really didn’t understand at the time, but I felt a connection. The information was powerful and confusing and wonderful all at the same time. From here, I hired my first Coach. I had no idea how I was going to pay for it, but, I knew something had to change.
After working with this Coach, I was hooked on this new way of thinking. It gave me something to believe in. And I felt a sense of purpose. I could see the changes in my kids' lives too. You know, Michael Jackson says, If you want to change the world, start with the Man in the mirror! So, I did. I started with me. I could see that as I changed the way I looked at things, the things I looked at changed. It was amazing, it was powerful.
So, I kept on. This stuff is for me. I want to know how to do this stuff. So, I signed up for the first training. Again, I had no idea where I was going to get the money to pay for it. But I did. All this time, I was still smoking. I went out for a smoke when the class would take a break. I remember thinking to myself, I would love to do this work, but my trainers go on for so long and I can’t even get through more than 3 hours without stopping for a smoke. How will I ever become a coach if I’m still smoking? I felt down… but I kept going.
After the first training, I worked with some people that were in this new community, I refer to as the NLP community. That was one of the perks of doing this training, we could work with a peer, and it was like getting free counseling. We would practice our new skills with one another to hone the skill. Just like in most other trainings. Awesome, right! So, I was working with this woman, another highschool friend, we did exchange work practicing our skills with one another.
The issue I finally chose to work on was to stop smoking for good. And it worked. We worked together for about 6-8 weeks and I remember to this day, that I had my last cigarette on May 15, 2017, and have not had a cigarette since that day. I have no desire to smoke and I am so grateful to finally be free of that habit.
With my nursing background, I had the belief that I needed to slowly reduce my nicotine intake. So used the patch for about 6 weeks after having no cigarettes.
I looked in the mirror and started with me. I stopped smoking and the super cool part of all this is it had a ripple effect. 6 months later, my husband stopped smoking. He decided to take up a gym membership instead of smoking and 3 years later, he still goes to the gym 5 days a week and remains free from the habit of smoking.
Often in my journaling, I would write that I really want to stop smoking. I want to quit smoking. The issue with this, is, I was still focused on what I didn’t want. I didn’t want to smoke any more. After taking the training and going to the workshops, I learned how much my language and the words I was using impacted what I was manifesting in my life. Including smoking. Once I started focusing on living a healthy lifestyle which included, healthy nutrition, exercise, and rest, and working with my coach is where I found the success of becoming free from a habit I felt was destroying my physical body, my life, and overall well-being and I stopped smoking for good. And you can too.
When we focus on the things that we don't want, the issue is that the focus is on the thing that is not wanted. By focusing on the very thing that is unwanted, often causes us to want it more, even though we say we don't want it! Try it! Say to your self, I don't want to smoke! How do you feel? Does it make you feel like walking away from the very thing you're saying you don't want? Or are you feeling like going and doing that very thing you just said you didn't want to do?
I get it. I have been there many times before. You can bet that over the 22 years that I was smoking there were several months I would journal and say to myself how much I wanted to quit. I don't want to smoke. Once I worked with my coach and changed my focus, changed the language at the unconscious level, I was able to overcome that obstacle and achieve optimal health. My doctor has even told me 3 years later that my body is in good health with having reversed the effects of my past smoking habit.
So RockStar, I am talking to you! If you are ready to put yourself first for a change and give yourself the gift of achieving a healthier happier you! Click here to book a complimentary discovery session! Let's bring you back to your inner RockStar who is waiting for you to show her/him the way!
I’m Coach Jackie Thomas.
I also happen to be a Nurse in the Healthcare field. I’ve been a PSW as well.
I’m a wife and mom who loves her family. But, sometimes, after a “bad day” or dealing with some intense trauma, I was triggered and brought it home to my kids and spouse. It wasn’t working.
At the height of my burnout, I went looking for solutions. Anything to make me feel better again. To love my career again. To reignite my passion again.
I found evolved NLP. The combination of science meets spiritual resonated with me. The work is founded in practices of forgiveness and healing on a cellular level for lasting true change.
To rebound, rebuild, and repair from days of trauma, disease, and stress.
To reclaim our passion to serve.
To love our career and our lives - at the same time.
These tools gave me my life back.
They can do the same for you.